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The Neurodivergent Love Lab. A weekly podcast for ADHD, autistic, and AuDHD women Hosted by Jenna Dalton, a psychologist who’s AuDHD.
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⚡ The Hypothesis
You’re not the problem. You deserve to feel truly understood and deeply loved. And that is absolutely possible. Let me show you how.
About the show
If you’ve read all the relationship books and felt like they just didn’t work for you, this is the show you’ve been waiting for.
Each episode breaks down how female neurodivergent wiring actually shows up in relationships (and gives you tools designed for how your brain actually works.)
No clinical jargon. No advice that only works for neurotypical people. Just the kind of conversation that ends with: “ohhh… it makes so much more sense. I know what to do now!”
You’ll leave with practical tools and neurodivergent-affirming strategies to help you build a better relationship – with yourself and your partner.
What to expect
New episodes weekly. Most run 15–30 minutes. Long enough to actually get something useful out of it, short enough to fit into your drive, your walk, or trying out that new TikTok recipe. (Besides. We both know you’ll be listening on 1.5x speed, anyway!)
Here’s what you can expect:
- What’s really going on when you shut down, go blank, or over-explain in a fight, and how to repair and reconnect afterward in a way that helps you feel more secure
- Why you fall hard and fast…. and then pull away (and why it doesn’t mean you’ve fallen out of love)
- Rejection sensitivity and taking things personally (why one slightly flat text can wreck your whole afternoon, and how to slow the spiral)
- How autism and ADHD hide in women (the “good girl” version nobody was looking for), and why your relationship history suddenly makes sense after a late diagnosis
- What it’s like to be AuDHD, including why you can crave closeness and need space at the same time (and how to explain that so your partner doesn’t feel rejected)
- Why being the “easy” one is quietly erasing you, and what unmasking with the person who loves you most actually looks like (so your relationship doesn’t feel like a performance)
- Why typical relationship advice and couples therapy keep falling flat, and what to do instead
- Neurodivergent-affirming scripts and tools for the conversations you’ve been rehearsing for months (and still haven’t had)
Find the episode you need
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Episode 03The Neuroscience of Why You Fall Hard and Then Pull Away
The most misunderstood pattern in neurodivergent relationships. The neuroscience and four tools to break the cycle.
Episode 05Why You Shut Down In Fights (And What to Do About It)
The difference between ADHD and autistic shutdowns. Plus, what’s actually going on and what to do when your partner feels like you’re checking out.
Episode 07How Rejection Sensitivity Hijacks Your Relationship (+ 4 Steps to Slow Its Roll)
Why mild criticism can land like a punch and a small disagreement can feel like the whole relationship is ending. The neuroscience of RSD, plus four steps to slow the spiral.
Convinced it’s probably you?
That’s usually the first thought, isn’t it? Take the free quiz, Is It Actually Me?, and find out what’s really driving the same hurt, the same fight, the same feeling on repeat — your wiring, your relationship, or both together. Because “it’s me” and “it’s us” were never the same thing.
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