You’ve spent your whole life feeling like you’re missing something and doing relationships wrong.
Here’s why I do this work and who I do it for….
You’re not bad at love. You just haven’t been given the neurodivergent-friendly tools to make sense of it.
Maybe you’ve been told you’re “too much” or “too sensitive”
You shut down during a fight and can’t explain why. Or you hyperfocus on someone so intensely it feels like Hollywood love at first sight…. until something shifts, and you don’t understand what changed. Or you’ve masked all day and come home with absolutely nothing left for the person you love most.
Or you simultaneously crave connection but need alone time and are struggling to find the right balance. Or you feel a deep sense of insecurity – like you’re constantly waiting for your partner to tell you they’re leaving you. Or you have a tough time asking for what you need because you’re used to being told you’re “too needy” or “too much.”
When you’re neurodivergent – you have ADHD, autism, or AuDHD – these patterns make sense once you understand how your brain actually works in relationships.
And it’s important you know: there’s nothing wrong with you.
You’re not bad at love. You just haven’t been given the tools to make sense of it with your wiring.
I help neurodivergent people build relationships that actually work with their brains.
I’m a registered provisional psychologist (and I’m AuDHD myself.) I specialize in helping neurodivergent people build happy, healthy relationships that work with their unique brains, rather than trying to “fix” their brains.
I got into this work because I kept seeing the same thing over and over: smart, self-aware, deeply caring people who had been in therapy before and still felt unseen. They’d been given relationship advice designed for neurotypical brains.
Told to “look for subtle bids for connection” or “use eye contact and physical touch more” or “adopt ‘I feel’ statements” or “schedule weekly date nights”…. and when it didn’t work, they blamed themselves.
That’s not a you problem. That’s a tools problem.
I learned I was AuDHD in my 40s. It changed everything.
The first time I wondered, “Wait… maybe I’m neurodivergent” I was doing my master’s practicum at a practice that specialized in supporting neurodivergent clients.
I was learning the patterns. Reading the research. Sitting with clients who were finally getting language for what their brains had been doing all along. And the more I listened, the more familiar it sounded.
The masking exhaustion. The way conflict could pull me offline in an instant. The sense, for as long as I could remember, that I was working harder than the people around me just to do the things that seemed to come naturally to everyone else. Making and keeping friends. Not letting the small things get to me. Being comfortable in social situations. Staying focused on the things I really should be doing rather than getting distracted by shiny objects….
That question – “maybe me, too” – turned into years of self-identification. And then, in 2026, into a formal assessment that confirmed what I’d suspected for a long time: I’m AuDHD.
There was so much relief. And grief.
Relief because suddenly I had language for things I’d spent years trying to fix in myself. I didn’t know I didn’t need fixing. I didn’t know I simply had an AuDHD brain that needed a different kind of support.
And grief. For the version of me who spent decades thinking she just needed to try harder. Be calmer. Be less. Be more. The years of self-blame for things that were never personal failings in the first place.
I tell you this because it’s the lens I bring to every conversation I have with my clients. When you sit down with me, you’re not sitting down with someone who’s read about your brain in a textbook. You’re sitting down with someone who knows what it’s like to suddenly understand yourself for the first time.
And to want, more than anything, for your relationships to finally feel like a place you don’t have to mask to belong.
Most couples therapy is built on neurotypical patterns.
It doesn’t take into account that a subtle bid for connection may be missed by a neurodivergent partner who needs explicit, direct communication.
Or that “I feel” statements assume real-time emotional awareness, which can be a challenge for neurodivergent people who can’t access or articulate emotions on demand — especially during conflict.
Or that a secure attachment can appear to be avoidant when a partner needs extended alone time to process, or engages in differing levels of eye contact and physical touch patterns.
Neurodivergent brains work differently — and different doesn’t mean disordered.
Autistic directness isn’t “lack of empathy.” ADHD executive functioning challenges aren’t “forgetting because they don’t care.”
The best way to ensure your needs are met with your partner — and that you can meet your partner’s needs — is to take into account how your unique brain works.
I built my practice around a simple belief: your brain isn’t broken. It has superpowers and challenges, and both deserve support. The goal isn’t to make you neurotypical. It’s to find strategies that work with your wiring — not against it.
I bring 20+ years of experience in mental health and wellness, including a background in fitness and nutrition coaching. I know that the brain and body are deeply connected, and I bring that whole-person perspective into our work together.
Neurodivergent adults navigating love and relationships.
I work with people who have ADHD, autism, or AuDHD. That might look like….
The “ohhh… that’s why” moment
You just got diagnosed (or you saw yourself in that TikTok video and have self-identified as neurodivergent) and suddenly your entire relationship history makes sense. You want someone who can help you figure out what to do next – without trying to make you someone you’re not.
Speaking different languages
You’re in a relationship where one or both of you are neurodivergent and the communication feels like you’re speaking different languages. You love each other, but the patterns: the shutdowns, the missed bids, the executive function battles…. are wearing you down.
Therapy didn’t quite work
You’ve been in therapy before and it didn’t quite work as well as you’d hoped. The advice felt generic. The therapist was empathetic and invested but didn’t really understand your brain. My take? Therapy can absolutely work for you. You just need a neurodivergent-affirming approach.
My practice is inclusive and affirming. I’m sex-positive, kink-affirming, and welcome clients in all relationship structures: monogamous, consensually non-monogamous, polyamorous, and open. LGBTQIA2S+ individuals and relationships of all configurations are welcome here.
Real tools designed for brains that work differently.
- Understanding your brain. Not in a textbook way, in a “this is why I do that thing” way. We’ll map how your ADHD, autism, or AuDHD shows up specifically in your life and relationships so you finally have language for patterns that have confused you for years.
- Communication that actually works for your wiring. Not the “I feel X, when you Y” scripts that never felt natural. Real tools designed for brains that process conflict differently, need more explicit communication, or struggle with tone and timing.
- Navigating the hard stuff. Conflict shutdown and repair. Hyperfocus-to-withdrawal cycles. RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) and how it impacts your perception of your partner’s words and actions. PDA (pathological demand avoidance) and how the experience of being expected to do something can make doing the things you actually want to do that much harder. Masking exhaustion and having nothing left for your partner at the end of a long day. Executive function challenges and the invisible load of shared responsibilities. And more.
- Building a relationship that fits your brain. Not one that requires you to mask, perform, or push through. A relationship with flexible structure, communication, and connection strategies designed around how your brain actually works, so you can stop feeling like your relationship is nearly broken and start feeling more emotionally safe and secure.
I don’t do one-size-fits-all therapy.
I pull from several evidence-based approaches and adapt them for neurodivergent brains. Everything I do is strengths-based: we start from the assumption that your brain has real superpowers alongside its challenges.
Attachment Theory
To understand your relationship patterns and build more secure connections. Many neurodivergent people have attachment styles that look “insecure” but make perfect sense once you factor in their wiring.
ACT
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy — to help you develop psychological flexibility and make decisions from your values, rather than from anxiety, RSD, or people-pleasing.
DBT
Dialectical Behaviour Therapy — for emotional regulation, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness, adapted to work with your sensory and processing needs.
Somatic Therapy
Because for many neurodivergent people, the body holds what the brain can’t articulate. We’ll work with your nervous system, not just your thoughts.
SFBT
Solution-Focused Brief Therapy — practical, actionable steps you can use right away. You’ll leave sessions with tools, not just insights.
Strengths-based
Our work is about building on what’s already working, not fixing what’s “wrong.” The goal isn’t to make you neurotypical — it’s to find what fits your wiring.
The fancy-pants version.
I’m a Registered Provisional Psychologist with the College of Alberta Psychologists. I hold a Master of Arts with Distinction in Counselling Psychology from Yorkville University and a BA Honours in Psychology from the University of Calgary. I also have a background as a personal trainer and nutrition coach — because I know how powerful the brain-body connection can be. Sometimes your body holds feelings your brain can’t articulate.
I have over 20 years of experience in mental health and wellness across the non-profit and private sectors. I’m constantly expanding my training in psychology-based tools and neurodivergent-affirming practices to make sure my clients get the most current, evidence-based support available.
Ready to talk?
If you’ve read this far and something resonated — that’s worth paying attention to. You don’t need to have it all figured out before reaching out. You don’t even need to know exactly what you want to work on. “I just realized my brain works differently and I think it’s affecting my relationships” is enough.
I offer in-person sessions in Calgary and secure virtual sessions throughout Alberta.
Book your free consultationOr send me an email at jenna@jennadalton.com