There are 2 extremes in the postpartum fitness industry.

On the one side you have the “Lose the baby weight fast”; “Look like you never had a baby”; “Fit back into your jeans” stuff.

On the other end you have the “Love your body – stretch marks, loose skin, scars, and all!”; “Only think positive thoughts about your body”; “Never think about losing weight. That’s just society trying to force you to change” stuff.

The truth is that both extremes aren’t helpful.

They’re not taking an entire woman’s health – mental, emotional and physical – into consideration.

They’re both dogmatic approaches that try to control a woman and the choices she makes instead of giving her the option to make an informed choice about what’s right for her.

So we need to take a step back from the extremes and meet in the middle.

A place where you aren’t shamed for looking a certain way, and you aren’t shamed for wanting to look a certain way.

Where weight loss isn’t the only priority, but it can be a priority if you want it to be.

Where you’re taught to accept (and hopefully even love) where you’re at. But you’re also allowed to change how your body looks – even if that means getting a tummy tuck or other cosmetic procedure.

Proponents of the one extreme will say, “But a woman has a right to look however she wants to look and she can workout and eat and do things to make that happen.” That’s 100% true.

Advocates of the other extreme will say, “But a woman shouldn’t feel pressure to fit an unrealistic ideal.” That’s 100% true.

This is why we need to take a step back, set our judgements aside and remember what postpartum fitness is truly about – empowering moms to feel good in their bodies.

So how do we do that?

How can you get to a place where you aren’t driven by a hatred for your body, but you’re also allowed to make some physical changes?

This isn’t an overnight process. And there are some key things we want to remember along the way. But it’s possible. Here’s how to get started…

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Diastasis recti has become this ginormous fear-factor in the postpartum fitness industry.

There are tons of posts out there about how to “fix” it, what exercises make it worse, whether or not you should be worried about closing the gap or just opt for a functional diastasis (where the gap isn’t technically closed but your abs respond well when you engage your core so you’re considered healed).

The truth is that diastasis doesn’t need to be as scary or confusing as it may seem.

And just because you have diastasis doesn’t necessarily mean that you can never lift heavy again or never do a crunch or plank again or never enjoy life again.

You just need to ask yourself one simple question to help determine if a certain exercise – like the plank – is the right choice for you.

Because there isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach to any aspect of postpartum fitness – including rehabbing a diastasis and regaining your core strength.

You simply need to pay attention to the signs and symptoms that are coming up for you and ask the right questions to help determine what’s best for you and your body.

That’s why – if you want to bring the plank (or any exercise) back into your fitness life – you’ve gotta get clear on this…

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Moms need strong glutes because they’re an important ally to your pelvic floor and core. They’re also what you’ll use to do most of the lifting, walking, lunging, squatting… that comes with the #momlife territory.

So strong glutes = feeling stronger overall, functioning better, and having an easier time keeping up with the day-to-day physical demands of motherhood.

But something that’s often missed in postpartum exercise programming is the fact that it’s not just “Do these 12 exercises to get a better booty”.

There’s so much more to the postpartum glute-strengthening scene than that.

And the surprising truth is that – if you’ve been doing glute exercises and not noticing much, if any difference in the way your glutes feel or look – it might not be because you’re choosing the wrong exercises, or even that you’re not doing them enough.

It could be that you’ve got some tightness that’s stopping you from getting results.

It’s actually super common for moms to have tight muscles in (and around) their booty that make it hard (maybe even impossible) for the glutes to engage as well as they could.

Yes.

Just like you can have a too tight and a too weak pelvic floor at the same time, you can also have a too tight and too weak booty at the same time.

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How many times have you gotten to the end of the week, frustrated that you didn’t get enough workouts in?

How many months have gone by where you’ve been disappointed by not seeing the changes in your body you’d hoped you’d see by now?

How many promises have you made to yourself that this week it’s going to be different? This week you’ll take care of yourself for once?

Fitting in fitness as a mom can be complicated.

No two weeks are the same.

Heck, no two days are the same!

You do your best to plan out your workouts, decide when you’ll do them, get everything ready.

But then you’re up 5 times soothing a teething baby and too exhausted to do that HIIT workout.

Or you forgot that your kids have a doctors appointment so you can’t make it to the gym like usual.

Or you set your alarm to get up early and it works! You get up before anyone else on Monday and get your workout in. But then Wednesday rolls around and you have an early morning meeting so the workout will have to wait.

With so much inconsistency in your life, you can end up feeling like there’s no way you’ll ever get your workouts in on a regular basis.

This is why you need to take it one day at a time.

Or, as I like to tell my clients, plan but be flexible.

Here’s how that looks in my life.

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Ever have trouble doing some exercises – especially on all fours – because you get wrist or forearm pain?

Maybe that wrist pain even sticks around and bugs you randomly throughout the day too?

This is actually a super common issue for many moms and there are three key things you’ll want to focus on to help alleviate the pain.

But first, let’s get clear on what exactly this is so you know if it’s what you have and how to deal with it.

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Motherhood is hard.

Really hard.

And it’s made even harder when we’re constantly comparing ourselves to other moms and feeling guilty or judged for making certain choices.

Like losing your cool in the middle of aisle 3 and screaming at your tantruming 4 year old to “Get. Off. The. Floor. NOW!”

Skipping brushing your kiddo’s teeth and putting them straight into bed because you’re just done.

Or putting your toddler in front of the TV so you can get a workout in (and then leaving them there so you can also get in a shower too).

Yep.

Motherhood can feel like a revolving door of guilt, shame and judgment.

And it’s not just you.

According to one study out of England, a majority of moms don’t exercise because they feel guilty for taking time away from their kiddos (which I assume at least partially comes from a place of feeling like they’d be judged as being a “bad mom” for putting their own needs first).

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

You’re allowed to put your needs first.

You’re allowed to not let those guilty feelings, and judgy assumptions ruin your day.

You simply need to remember these 3 truths…

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